Evan Rachel Wood Talks Domestic Abuse, Brands R. Kelly 'Narcissistic Psychopath With God Complex'
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Yes, she watched the Lifetime documentary. "And I related A LOT to it."

Evan Rachel Wood has branded R. Kelly a narcissistic "psychopath," who "definitely has a god complex" — and she is all too familiar with the hallmarks.

The actress, herself a survivor of domestic abuse, was a guest on Dax Shepard's Armchair Expert podcast on Monday, where they discussed the recent Lifetime documentary series "Surviving R. Kelly."

"I did watch it, and I related a lot to it," she said.

Evan said one of the most frustrating things she and other survivors hear is that they should simply walk away from the situation.

"There's a lot of ways you can be abused that are not physical,' she said. "There's a lot of really complicated ways that somebody can control you and prevent you from leaving without having to restrain you."

"I always hear 'If somebody hits you, just leave'. What they don't talk about is the person that hit you is someone you love very much, and for a long time has been very nice, and very charismatic and very sweet, and has this amazing side to them, and you don't want to believe that's who they are. And it progressively gets worse."

"Then you start walking on eggshells to prevent another incident, then there's tension building, then there's another explosion, then you start the cycle over again."

She said there is so much victim blaming, that victims are afraid to come forward — which she believes is likely what happened and is happening in R. Kelly's case.

"He sounds like he might be an actual psychopath," she said. "Definitely has a God complex and is definitely narcissistic."

She said that while she understood he had a rough childhood, and that was part of the tragedy, she felt no sympathy for Kelly.

"A lot of people get abused and don't abuse other people," she said. "I think that he should definitely be prosecuted."

She speculated that like her own case and other survivors, Kelly's alleged victims likely believed they were in a "Sid & Nancy", us against the world-style, special unique relationship; she further speculated that he probably shared something very personal with his alleged victims, which Evan said would make them see it from his point of view; all of which manipulates the person being abused into excusing the behavior.

"These were girls that had a dream, they really thought that they were getting an opportunity to do something great with their lives... and that's the part makes him a little more psychopathic," she added. "It's malicious. It's a pattern of behavior that repeated. It's calculated. You know the people that you can prey upon."

R. Kelly is currently facing ten charges of aggravated criminal sexual abuse. He denies those charges as well as all of the allegations of sexual abuse and underage sexual abuse that have been levied at him over the years. He was acquitted of similar charges years ago.

Evans admitted she didn't even realize that she herself was a victim until years afterward.

"I'm a survivor myself, and it wasn't until very recently that I really came to terms with everything, and was even able to identify what had happened," she said.

"When it happens it's very complicated; you lie to yourself, you're being lied to, you're being gas-lit in a dangerous situation. You lose a sense of self, and your sense of reality, because you're stuck in this nightmare."

She also praised the depiction of domestic violence in HBO show "Big Little Lies": "[It's a] really great portrayal of what it is like and the complexities behind it," she said. "It's very accurate."

The "Westworld" star confirmed she is dating now, but joked that her baggage tends to frighten potential suitors off.

"Dating in general is really interesting," she laughed. "Hey! I'm a famous bi-sexual mother of a five-year-old, and rape survivor and domestic violence survivor - so who wants a crack at this?!"

She joked that people might think "This is exciting!" at first, but ultimately decide: "I'm gonna get the f--k out of here."

On Monday, the Emmy-nominated star shared a picture of herself on Twitter, showing the self-inflicted scars on her wrists.

"2 years into my abusive relationship I resorted to self harm. When my abuser would threaten or attack me, I cut my wrist as a way to disarm him. It only made the abuse stop temporarily. At that point I was desperate to stop the abuse and I was too terrified to leave. #IAmNotOk."

She then began retweeting hundreds of her followers messages using the same hashtag, showing harrowing evidence of the wounds inflicted upon them, either by, or because of, an abuser.

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