"Today's actually our five-year [wedding] anniversary," Meghan told Bravo's Daily Dish in an interview published Thursday. "And so we -- he's inside at Goodwill -- we're like looking for Halloween costumes, and then we're going to counseling. I think that's almost a date for us because we have to talk about us; we have to communicate about things that don't involve [other topics]."
Meghan, who moved to St. Louis with her family following her exit from "RHOC," noted that walking away from the marriage after learning of Jim's "indiscretion" would've been the easier of her options, but because they share children -- daughter Aspen, 2, and sons Hart and Hayes, 1 -- that changed everything.
"It's so easy to just say, 'No,'" she explained. "It's harder to work through."
"I think people can change. And people screw up, and people can change," she went on. "I'm in no way taking responsibility from him or accountability, and if we were just dating, he would be long gone. But we built a life together, and there are so many lives that would be affected."
"I'm hurt right now, and our life is massively affected, but if we were to split just because of his indiscretion then there's multiple other people who are affected as well," she added. "So I owe it to not only myself and the commitment I made to my marriage to work on it, but I owe it to my children."
As for how Jim has changed since the scandal, Meghan says he's working on himself and actively taking steps to regain her trust. He's also making small changes in how he approaches things like scheduling that Meghan feels can really add up.
"I think going to therapy is huge because I think a lot of men don't like that. So that's been really big for me," she said. "And then like little things to work on [as well]. Let's say, I like [to write] things in the calendar, and he doesn't, [so he's] trying to put things in the calendar more. That's not going to make or break a marriage, but little things add [up], like small acts of kindness."
Meghan first learned of her husband's alleged behavior through the media. At the time, she was also grappling with the news that one of their sons had "irreversible brain damage." Hart was diagnosed with periventricular leukomalacia, or PLV, a type of brain injury that affects premature infants. The condition involves the death of small areas of brain tissue around fluid-filled areas called ventricles, which creates "holes" in the brain.
So while Meghan's been working on her marriage, she's also been flying all around the country, finding the best doctors and care for her baby.
"We're just still working it day by day. I think after such a breach of trust, it's so hard to rebuild from there, especially [with] so many distractions, like our son's health problems and two other little babies as well," she said. "And so to focus on the two of us as a couple is really hard."
In June of this year, Jim admitted he had a "lapse in judgement" following reports he sent explicit messages to another woman while his wife was giving birth to Hart and Hayes. But he denied having any "physical contact" with the woman and asserted that the person in question, who we later learned was an alleged baseball groupie named Jennifer McFelia Villegas, was "someone trying to profit from my name."
"Regrettably, I had a lapse in judgment," he said. "I engaged in an inappropriate conversation with this person. At no time was there any type of relationship or physical contact. Absolutely none. This is someone trying to profit from my name. I am aware she has done this to others in the past."
"Clearly, I made a very poor decision to expose myself and my family to this type of person. For this, I am truly sorry and sought forgiveness from my wife," he continued. "I'm outraged over the intent to ruin my family and intend to take legal action. We were never having any problems in our marriage. My attorney is in possession of documents wherein this person has admitted fabricating large portions of her 'story.'"
Jim, a current Fox Sports broadcaster, went on to reiterate that he "never had any sort of a physical relationship outside of my marriage with her or anyone else."
Jen, on the other hand, claimed she "never set anyone up, blackmailed anyone nor have I attempted to ruin anyone's family. All my relationships have involved two consenting adults. I made a poor decision to enter a relationship with a married man, and for that, I am sorry."
"I am no saint," she continued. "My past includes two DUIs, and for that, I am deeply remorseful. And I've learned from my mistakes. My life today is completely devoted to my relationship with God and my daughter."