"Willow had a moment not too long ago, when you had that upset and you were crying on the couch and I just came to you and held you and I said to myself, I wish I had done this more to her," recalled Pinkett Smith. "When you can just hold your little girl, have her tears, have her pain."
Willow said that recent reaction was different from how Jada handled things in the past. "Back in the day if I would be crying or have an upset, the energy was always like, take that somewhere else and deal with it on your own," she said.
"That's how I was treating myself, I didn't want to be with my own feelings," explained Jada, who added that it took her a long time to get to a place where she felt okay crying in front of her own daughter.
"There's this wall, this armor and I was thinking about how it does a disservice to everybody we love, including ourselves," she said. Looking at Willow, she added, "I want to just take a moment and say to you, I'm sorry." She then gave her a hug, causing Rumer to tear up.
Explaining why she was the way she was, Jada said that the way she was raised, being vulnerable was not considered "safe," and a safe space is all she wanted to create for her children. "The way we grew up, the way my mother grew up, you feel like you have to be strong and the first thing you want to do is teach your girls how to be strong," she said.
"There was a time when her tears were so offensive to me, so offensive," Jada said of Willow. "I was like, take that over there, we can't afford that here. Not realizing, bitch, you can afford that here. You're not in Baltimore anymore, okay? You absolutely can afford it here."
While Jada said she had to "confront" how she treated her daughter in the past, it comes with the realization that she can be vulnerable and "nurture" her now.
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