Why Are You Still Single? Matchmaker Siggy Flicker Can Help

TooFab caught up with Siggy to discussher celebrity couple wishlist, her hopes for Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, her unique advice for Lindsay Lohan and how each of us can find our perfect match.

TooFab:What made you decide to do the show?

Flicker:Well I got to a point in my life where I had been doing it for so long,I decided I was going to start making some money off of it. I have been doingit for 20 years -- life coach, matchmaker, love coach. My marriage was fallingapart, so I found myself back in the dating world, going on date after date,applying my own lessons and practicing what I preach. I ended up findingsomeone and I am getting married this year.

So it worked for me. I just moved back to the tri-state area and startedrunning one of the largest matchmaking companies here. I work with clients allthe way to Florida.

TooFab:As a matchmaker, what celeb couple would you love to see together?

Flicker:I would like to see Ryan Gosling backtogether with Rachel McAdams. Myfavorite movie is the “The Notebook” and I would love to see them together. Iwould like to see Cameron Diaz backwith Justin Timberlake, I thought theywere a great couple. Sandra Bullockis my favorite actress of all time, I am so infatuated with her, and on my bestday I think I look like her. I would love to see her with someone who is not aplayer, maybe Bradley Cooper. I wouldlove to see her with him.

TooFab:Who do you think will make it in the long haul?

Flicker:Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are togetherfor the long haul. I really believe in Demi[Moore] and Ashton [Kutcher]. I know they are having problems now, and I reallythink that 7 years together is like 107 years together in Hollywood time. It'sreally hard in the industry, so I see them working it out.

People need to realize that love is all about chemistry, you never knowwho you're going to connect with. As long as you have physical chemistry,emotional chemistry, intellectual chemistry, and spiritual chemistry, thatrelationship is going to last. Physical chemistry -- you have to want to kissthe person in front of you; Intellectual chemistry -- that person has got tostimulate your mind; Emotional chemistry - you have to be with someone who is readyand able to commit; Spiritual chemistry -- you want to be with someone who is kindand generous. You are going to have ups and downs and you want someone who isable to ride the ups and downs with you.

TooFab:What advice would you give to Lindsay Lohan?

Flicker:If Lindsay was my daughter I would take her into the room and smack heracross the face. After I was done, I would help her pack her suitcase and sayyou are leaving Hollywood. There are some people who are strong enough to livein Hollywood and others who are not. Lindsay cannot live in Hollywood, sheneeds to get out.

Sometimes children just need their parents' guidance. Remember when DemiMoore moved away for a year to raise her kids? [Lindsay] needs to get out, sheneeds to be in an environment that does not entice her and make her do thethings she shouldn't be doing. She is a beautiful girl, she is a talented girl,and she keeps on making the same mistakes over and over again and expectingdifferent results.

TooFab:Who is the hardest celebrity you've had to deal with?

Flicker:I worked with a celebrity who is probably one of the most famouscelebrities in the world. I went on a date with him, but not a real date. Wewent to a restaurant and there were paparazzi, everyone was staring at us, and everytime a gorgeous woman walked by he would check out her ass. I said “I know why you'resingle, it's because you have no respect for who is sitting across from you. Youthink you're in a candy shop, ADD always looking around.” After the third timehe did it I had to leave him in the restaurant. I don't do it to be mean; I amjust really passionate about what I do.

TooFab:For your show, “Why Am I Still Single?!,” was it hard adjusting to alife in front of the cameras?

Flicker:Actually no. My whole life I have always been on, I am a hyperactiveperson, I don't hold back from anything. So for me, having cameras around isnot a big deal. I am just extremely grateful that I am able to do this, tomotivate and change so many lives. I am grateful to VH1 because I wasapproached by several networks, and VH1 is the only one that listened to me andgot it right.

TooFab:Do people act different on camera?

Flicker:No. VH1 cast several single people and said 'we are just going to filmyou on the date.' They thought that they were just going on a date, and theyknew they were going to meet Siggy Flicker the matchmaker -- they didn't know Iwas watching from another room. We did it that way is because when I meet a lotof people they are on their best behavior like a job interview, so I have ahard time identifying what's wrong. This way I am able to see them on the dateand determine what they are doing wrong. If they are on a date and my client istalking about their nine cats all date long, I'll know that I need to tell himto stop talking about his cats. Or if I am watching a client talking about howthe doctor just upped her Prozac from 20 milligrams to 30 milligrams, that's somethingI have to talk to her about because there are just certain things that you justdon't do or say on a first date.

TooFab:What do you find the most common errors that people make on first dates?

Flicker:Unrealistic expectations! People just will shut down right away whenthey see the person sitting in front of them doesn't look like the former JohnF. Kennedy, Jr. or Megan Fox. My philosophy is 'change your attitude and youcan change your life.' Every person is a person of value. So whether you'resitting across from somebody you have chemistry with or not, who cares? Thatperson is going to offer you something good, perhaps a new book, new foundation,new job, place to travel. At the end of the date that person can say “Wow, thisperson would be great for my neighbor, my friend, my co-worker.” It's all aboutnot shutting down and realizing that dating it isn't really that bad.

TooFab:What are the top requests you get, the top qualities that people arelooking for?

Flicker:Men definitely are visual creatures. Men are looking for a woman that isclassy, sophisticated, obviously pretty to their eyes. They are also lookingfor someone that is not a nag, and easy. Women are a little different. They arenot into looks that much. Women want a man who is kind, stable, ambitious, andwho can provide them with security -- not necessarily financial but emotionalbecause a woman wants to feel safe with her man.

TooFab:Los Angeles and New York are hard cities to find love in. What city doyou think is harder?

Flicker:I lived in LA for several years, and I have lived in New York. I don't believethat one city is harder than the other -- if you're having a hard time fallingin love, you're doing something wrong. You need to get off your Blackberry, ortry new gyms and open your eyes to the whole world that is out there.

TooFab:What top 5 tips can you give to single women in LA and New York?

Flicker:1. Get rid of your unrealistic expectations. 2. Stop being a Debbie Downer. 3. Get rid of your baggage. No talking aboutyour ex-lover, ex-boyfriend, and no talking about your expectations. 4. Find yourself a Siggy, a new therapist, newgroup, a new foundation. Find yourself a positive person to surround yourselfwith. 5. Get rid of your ego, don'tthink you're too good to sit across from someone you might not have aconnection with. Everybody is worth an hour of your time. Get rid of your egoand have a positive attitude.