"It feels so good that we're out of our own way and able to enjoy every moment," O'Day tells TooFab.
It's been a long and winding journey for the women of Danity Kane.
First formed by Diddy in 2005 on the MTV reality show "Making the Band," the girl group originally featured Aubrey O'Day, Shannon Bex, Dawn Richard, Aundrea Fimbres and D. Wood ... before the pop quintet went on to make music as a foursome, trio and, eventually, the duo Dumblonde.
Currently, the group consists of Aubrey, Shannon and Dawn, the latter rejoining the other two after a physical confrontation between O'Day and Richard in-studio back in 2014 led to a major falling out.
So, how were they able to patch things up after that particularly nasty spat? Well, TooFab can reveal, when her relationship with "Jersey Shore" star Pauly D ended in 2018, Aubrey decided it was time to make some major life changes and that eventually led to her reaching out to Dawn.
"I'm on such a journey right now, honestly, ever since ending my last relationship," she told TooFab. "I got the furthest away from anything that I loved or wanted to be than I ever have in my life. I had to go through many stages of grief and acceptance and then reteach myself self love. At the end of the day, even though I was in a very toxic, unhealthy environment, I allowed myself to be there. It just really was about everything surface and material and nothing regarding depth and I was just dying a slow death."
"For me, it took a while to get on a journey that was right for the way that I want to live my life and be and once I started to get healthier, I reached back out to Dawn and her and I, through a series of many conversations, started to understand each other as women and women of different color and women of different backgrounds," Aubrey continued. "We started to find ways that we could not agree all the time on the state of events, but we learned to accept each other's understanding of them, which was so powerful as women."
While O'Day has made headlines for the men she's dated, the way she looks at it, her longest relationship has been with her two current group-mates.
"I've known then since I was 17 and since we all stood on a line asking Diddy to believe our dreams," she explained. "We've gone through everything there is to go through and then some."
After all this time, she added that it just felt different when the trio regrouped earlier this year.
"None of us needed money or needed to be singing the first three albums we ever made," she said. "We literally just got to this really cool place. We just love ourselves without anything extra, no makeup, no costumes, no titles, no success, nothing that we have to put on ourselves. We just genuinely love ourselves and now we get to love each other while loving ourselves."
"I always say I was in love with all of the men I spent significant amounts of time with, but I didn't love myself in the relationship where I felt loved," O'Day continued. "And now I love myself and I'm in love with these two phenomenal women that are so incredibly talented and so powerful and so inspirational and now I just feel like there's just no ceiling to what we can achieve. It feels so good that we're out of our own way and able to enjoy every moment."
Later this month, the latest iteration of Danity Kane will hit the road again for their "The Universe Is Undefeated" Tour, kicking off September 30 in New York City.
"It's the best tour we've ever done. It's incredible and so free, I'm just in such a happy place," O'Day exclaimed while promoting the downfall of her relationship with Pauly on the current season of "Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars" on WE tv.
"It's hard to go back and talk about this other place," she added, "[but] it's significant to go through the down periods because they teach you, they give you strength and invite capacity into your life and I needed that in order to take on what my future holds."
"Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars" airs Fridays on WE tv. Check out DanityKane.com for more info on their upcoming tour!