"It's definitely not effortless, but now at this point, five years later, it's pretty good," the Goop founder said of uncoupling. "But the first couple of years it was very effortful."
Gwyneth Paltrow might write a book about how to consciously "uncouple."
The Goop founder opened up to the "TODAY" show Tuesday about her unconventional relationship with ex-husband Chris Martin, following their 2014 split, and how the public has responded to their co-parenting approach post-divorce.
"Both Chris and I have made a commitment to continue to love the things about each other that we've always loved and to really continue to develop our friendship and to find ways to continue to communicate," Paltrow told NBC's Savannah Guthrie. "There's been a long process to it, at some point maybe I'll write a book because you really have to focus on forgiveness -- and the spite that comes up you have to let it go."
"It's definitely not effortless, but now at this point, five years later, it's pretty good," she continued. "But the first couple of years it was very effortful and for the sake of the children, we were really committed to maintaining the family structure...even though it looked a bit different."
Paltrow explained that people have confronted her in public and thanked her for being open about her untraditional friendship with her ex.
"It's actually been really nice to see the culture embrace the idea," she said. You know people stop me all the time and say, 'You know I know you took a lot of crap for that in the beginning but thank you so much for doing that because I never would have thought to pursue that line of thinking.' So for me, that's really impactful."
The Goop founder, who married producer Brad Falchuk last year, told Guthrie that she wasn't sure whether she would find love again. "I guess if you'd asked me a couple of years ago I probably would have leaned towards not getting married again," she said. "But then sometimes life just surprises you and it's been really fun. I'm so happy that I was sort of given this other opportunity."
Paltrow also spoke about the changes that have taken place in Hollywood over the past year. If you recall, the "Iron Man" star was one of the first who spoke out against Harvey Weinstein back in 2017, describing an encounter with the disgraced movie producer when she was in her late 20s.
On Tuesday, Guthrie asked the actress, "Do you ever think what took so long for anything to be done, not just Harvey Weinstein, but just the whole thing."
"I think we grew up where that system was so solidified," she said. "I mean, it felt like there was nothing you could ever do...it was the way it was, and it was about how do I navigate around this to not get fired, to not get in trouble. I actually think it needed to happen in this critical mass kind of way, culturally everything that has happened needed to happen because our examples for when a woman had spoken out about this in the past were really not a good outcome for the woman, for the most part."
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