The "Flipping Out" star says he and Gage Edward were finally able to "sit down like adults" and leave their "inner children" at home.
On Thursday's episode of "Jeff Lewis Live," the "Flipping Out" star explained to his listeners just how he and his partner of 10 years -- who had quite the tumultuous breakup eight months ago -- were able to come together to reach a temporary legal custody agreement for their 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Monroe.
"What was not a good time was court yesterday," the outspoken interior designer began. "Gage and I, we went to court, but I wanna talk about the positives here. Gage left his inner child at the apartment. Now, I have to say Jeffrey did drive with me to the courthouse ... I had a very hard time keeping him in the car, but I did keep him in the car."
"Jeffrey" is Jeff's inner child, while he refers to Gage's as "Gagey."
"So we walk in, and Gage was there, and he was -- it wasn't like he was friendly, but he wasn't rude," Jeff continued. "He was sitting kind of across the courtroom from me, and it was crowded. There was a lot of cases to hear. And I wanna say we probably just sat there waiting, apart, for like an hour-and-a-half. Now, my attorney came in. His attorney came in."
Lewis said the two sat there with their attorneys, listening to all the cases that came before theirs. Among those they heard were domestic violence, child abuse and child endangerment cases. Lewis described the experience as a wake-up call.
"I'm listening to all these cases, and now I'm sitting there, Gage and I are in nice suits, sitting there with our $600-an-hour attorneys and our lattes, and I'm listening to this shit, and I'm like, we're douchebags, and I'm really, really embarrassed!" Jeff said, thinking to himself, "'Please do not call me. Don't call me, don't call me.' Because I'm gonna be up there, 'He picked her up from breakfast at 8 instead of 10.' And this woman's like, 'He beat the shit out of me. He took the kids!'"
Going back to mocking his own hypothetical explanation to the judge, Jeff continued, "'Can you believe that, Your Honor? He just went right in the gate!' And I'm like, I can't f--king go up there! This can't happen! Like, you really start to put things in perspective. I was sweating, sweating, sweating. And I'm like, this is not gonna be good, they're gonna key my car, they're gonna run me out of that courtroom."
Jeff said Gage's attorney eventually walked over to his and the two spoke outside the courtroom privately. When they came back, they made the guys a proposal.
"So what we were working on is legal temporary custody until our court hearing," Jeff explained, noting that that date is set for Oct. 3. "But now, I don't even wanna go to court anymore because I said, 'Ummm, I don't think I really belong here. Can we get a private judge?' And [our attorneys] were like, 'Yeah, we can pay for that.' I'm like, 'Let's pay for that.'"
After more deliberation between their attorneys, Lewis asked if he and Edward could speak privately.
"Gage agreed, and they put us in a mediation room, and we sat for probably about an hour. Gage was like old Gage. It was because he left his inner child at home, and I left Jeffrey in the car. I mean, I left the window down," Jeff explained. "But because we did not bring our inner children to court, we were able to sit down like adults, and we were able to talk things through, and we came up with a temporary schedule that works for the both of us. And I was very, very pleased."
"Now, granted, we were there for four-and-a-half hours total because I didn't want Gage to go back to his apartment and have 'Gagey' talk him out of it, because that's happened before," he added, noting that he and Gage "were kind of laughing a little bit" during their conversation.
"He had sent me a text later, like, 'I really appreciate it.' And I said, 'I really appreciate it.' And then I had texted him later in the evening about other things, and so things at the moment are really good," Lewis said. Noting he had slept well that night, he added, "I was very relieved because my biggest concern is Monroe, and I feel like this schedule works for her. I want to co-parent with Gage. I'm feeling very hopeful moving forward. He's a good dad."
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